Well, what better topic to write on when I am 4 months old in my marriage.
People had told me a lot of things and I had formed my own expectations as to how my life would be after marriage. However, to my pleasant surprise, many of those notions have been broken now :D
You know what has been the biggest change in the last 4 months ?? It is the people and atmosphere around me that has changed while I have remained the same. I still crack jokes, talk to friends, go out, dress like I used to, browse the same content on the internet, hobbies remain the same, choices remain the same ..But the way people around me treat me sometimes scares me !
I have seen girls who have dreamed about their marriage since they were 6 and when they finally get married, it is a dream come true for them and they don't shy away from flaunting it.However, I am differently coded..I never dreamt of a dream marriage or a dream guy. I took life as it came and kept adding criterias to how I would want my guy to be .. and I was lucky to get him. I was the most excited for that and not the marriage because marriage was the logical/social outcome out of our friendship/relationship. But anyway .. I would not deny getting excited during the 6 months before marriage and going all out crazy about
shopping and fussing over the minutest of details from my shoes to my make up and what not.
Huh! it was madness. But frankly I was not even thinking of the changes that that one day would bring to my life. I was happy because I had found someone who was worth sharing my life with and I had no mixed feelings about the guy. Rest I thought I will manage.
And, I have been able to manage quite well so far.
Ok, so let me try to list down the changes :
- My parents treat me formally now and give me money each time I visit them (however much I try, I cannot convince them otherwise)
- Things between me and him are more or less the same, except for the fact that we share our finances now and the love has grown even more :D
- Oh ya, the biggest change, I don't sit and chat/watch TV when I am back from a full day at office. I am supposed to be in the kitchen and even if there is nothing I can do, I am supposed to stand there and pretend as if I know it all !!
- I am now someone's bahu, kids call me chachi, girls/boys call me bhabhi..
- Weekends are not the same anymore and hence I am found less on the sofa and more in the kitchen/market
- I wash my own clothes and solely responsible for keeping my room clean
- I touch people's feet and the "aashirvaad" I get in return is for a good news..yukkk !!
- My neighbours and acquaintances expect me to be all decked up all the time and wear sindoor, which btw I don't out of personal choice and they find it weird. I couldn't care less !!
- I am a guest at my own house where I've spent my life and not at his house
- I have to be near perfect at all things and make no silly errors like dropping a plate in the kitchen, leaving an electrical appliance open, acting completely oblivious when someone rings the door bell.
- I don't have a brother now who can bully me and make me laugh
- I don't have a mother who can cook for me whenever and whatever I want her to
While in my heart I am still the unmarried free bird with no inhibitions and a lot of freedom, there is so much that has changed, that whether I like it or not, this is how life is going to be treating me from now on. But, you know what, I have a husband who is the best in this world and would do anything to keep me happy, and hence my mind and heart are in sync and I am in a happy position right now :D
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